Pulling off a First Date

pulling off the first dateCongratulations on getting your first date with this new person in your life.  First dates are the most important dates you will have because it sets yourself apart from everyone they have been out with thus far.  So no pressure, but this is important.  What do you do and where do you go?  What should you do and what should you avoid doing.  All are questions that plague the mind of the gentleman bachelor because we are always trying to get the next date with this special someone.

There are some things that we can do to increase our chances so the date can be a success and somethings that we can do that decrease the chances that the date will end on a good note.  Gentlemen should be a step above the rest because we are decisive and ready for most situations.  Keep in mind that I am not going to be talking about playing games.  Games should not be in a Gentleman’s play book.  Be yourself and make some good decisions for your first date.


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How to Pull off the First Date

  • Mistakes men make on first dates
  • Why going to the movies are terrible first dates
  • Explanation of why being chivalrous is always a great idea
  • Why employing the ideas from Executive Protection for the Family is applicable
  • Different date activities you can do

Dont forget the Amazon Review of the Week!

This week I featured Tactikey and talked about what I thought of their self defense product.  Go back to Episode –  and skip to the end where I tell you what I thought or just watch the YouTube video that I put together.

The Tactikey – $11.99

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How to Survive Rock Bottom

how to survive rock bottomRock bottom is a hard place to be.  I do not see anything associated with it to be any kind of joke what so ever.  We all need a bit of encouragement at some points in time in our own lives and this is a good time for some.  Rather or not you are going through tough times right now, rock bottom could be right around the corner for you.  You are not immune from these hard times.  Today I am delivering a podcast episode that is meant to be an encouragement to you.  Rock bottom doesn’t have to be debilitating.  You can recover from something like this.  The fact is that your current position in life does not have to be your reality.  It only takes effort on your part to bring yourself out of a horrible position that you are in.

NOTE: This should not be the only source of help if you are truly having a hard time.  Please consult professional help if you are having a hard time with depression.

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How do you survive rock bottom?

In the podcast episode today I am going to cover:

  • The levels that i went through during my rock bottom
  • Why rock bottom is not the end of the world
  • Ways to put a positive spin on your brokenness
  • How to end the tail spin

Resources used in the making of the podcast episode can be found below:

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Why Are People Afraid of Survivalism – Throwback Episode

why people are afraid of survivalismWe hear a lot in the media about “that crazy survivalist” or “those paranoid preppers” ruining things for everyone and how they are some of the worst people.  Well if you can imagine, we are not that way.  However there is a since of fear that people have in their heads that we are crazy, eccentric, hermits that live in a bunker living on nothing but MREs.  That is not true for the majority of us, however there is a fear involved when people start talking about prepping.  When I get into a conversation with others about survivalism they always to their favorite excuses on why they are not into survivalism which includes prepping.

This is what I am discussing today.  Why are people so afraid of survivalism and then at the end I speak about quick and easy ways to get started with prepping.  To me survivalism is a word that I associate with responsibility.  Responsibility for my family and responsibility for myself.  Stop being so afraid and MAN UP!


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Why are people so afraid of Survivalism?

  • My thoughts about survivalism
  • Why I feel like there is a responsibility in prepping
  • The excuses I hear all the time in opposition toward survivalism
    • it takes too much money to prepare
    • too much time involved in prepping
    • it it is too much to think about in prepping
    • Someone else will help me if something goes wrong
    • Survivalists are paranoid

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Would 18 year old You be Disappointed?

18 year old you disappointedYou are your own man.  This is evident by how you live your life on a daily basis.  But have have you been asleep behind the wheel?  If you were to go back in time to when you were 18 years old, would he be disappointed in how his life turns out?  We do not know everything that we are going to be at that early age, however we do have a power to change into what we want to be now.  When I was 18 years old, I wanted to be an MP (military police officer) for the military.  That changed so much between then and now.  I know better because I am older and wiser.  18 year old me had no clue how awesome my life would be today.

I am going to help you analyze rather or not you peaked in high school.  This is a real issue that needs to be discussed.  If you do not like what you hear, chances are, at age 18 you peaked.  This doesn’t have to be the end of your story, it just has to be the day it changes for good.


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Would 18 year old you be disappointed?

These topics will be discussed in today’s episode on Skilled Gentlemen Podcast

  • Address your future 18 year old self
    • What do you want for your future
    • What is your passions right now
    • Writing down what you want to accomplish after high school
    • Making a plan to execute this
  • Addressing your past 18 year old self
    • Where did you want to be
    • Was this important to you
    • Should you really have been focused on this or was your path great instead
    • Starting from right now being a better self
    • What advantages you have over the younger gentleman

Some information that was used in the making of the show were not exclusively mine.  I like to give credit where it is deserved:

Thought Catalog

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14 Skills to Teach your Children

14 skills to teach your childrenYour children are sponges for knowledge.  You have to teach them the skills that they will need to survive in the world.  Your children look to many different people for inspirations on how they should act.  Movie characters, people in music videos, YouTube creators, and anyone else that may catch their eye.  They see how the character acts and associates that with how they should act.  You, as a gentleman, should have already been teaching them before this happens.  A gentleman should always be a beacon of how to act in any situation.  You should be teaching your children the skills and concepts they need to be a gentleman themselves, no matter their gender.

Today’s podcast episode is about just that.  We dive into 14 different skills that you should teach your children.  These range from conceptual skills like spotting abusive relationships to hard skills like using a knife.


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What skills should you teach your children?

  • How to fish
  • Handling a gun
  • How to handle a knife
  • Driving skills
    • Outside of drivers ed class
  • How to treat someone of the opposite sex
  • The way money works
  • How to have ownership of their actions
  • When to buy quality and when to buy for a quick fix
  • Real defensive driving skills
  • Taking care of their bodies
  • How to swim
  • To be advocates for themselves
  • How to be self reliant
  • Speaking another language

Resources used in the show today are:

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Develop your Grit – Throwback

developing your gritYour grit is the only thing that stands between you and quitting when you have hit your limit.  You may be at rock bottom with no money and hungry and your grit will be there to keep you from complaining about it.  There are people out there that need people like us that have a developed grit to themselves.  As gentlemen we should be ever challenging ourselves and developing our toughness both mentally and physically.

The benefits of it greatly outnumber the reasons in which you shouldn’t.  Think about all the people in your life that you look up to.  The commonality of them all is how tough they are.  Join me today as I take you though a journey to develop your grit both mentally and physically to push yourself to be that gentleman that has it all together.


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HOW CAN WE DEVELOP OUR GRIT?

  • Mental
    • Act like you are in control at all times
    • Put aside the things that you cannot control
    • See the past as training
    • Celebrate your friends accomplishments
    • Refuse to complain
    • Focus on impressing yourself
  • Physically
    • Run that extra mile
    • Cut on the cold water
    • Getting Fit
    • Embrace the cold/heat
    • Train like your life depends on it
    • Challenge yourself
  • Why this really matters
    • It could save your life
    • If you are in a disaster
    • Helps develop your passion
    • Helps you reach your goals
    • Consider your grit your special weapon

Resources

What is Grit

what is gritIf you ever wondered what grit was, just think about when times got hard for you.  You hit the wall but you had a little voice in the back of your mind.  That little voice that said “keep going, keep pushing”.  Grit is that drive that you feel when you wake up in the morning and your muscles are sore.  Your alarm clock is going off and it is super cold outside.  You want to hit the snooze button but that drive and tenacity that you have makes you get up and push forward for the day.  Your drive is important to your success in life.  You are not going to meet your goals and receive the accolades that you desperately want by not having the grit to keep you going during the hard times.

Today I am going to talk about what is grit and really dive into the percentages of success.  The quote goes that 80% of success is just showing up everyday and 20% is everything else.


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What is Grit?

  • How to find the book Grit from Angela Duckworth for a free listen
  • What is the 80% truly made up of
  • How to develop and achieve more grit in your life
  • What does the 20% mean to someone that is looking for it all
  • How to know when enough is enough

Not all of the content covered in the podcast episode today is my own.  Here are the resources that I pulled from.

I also mentioned the Scale that you should try for yourself.  You can find that by clicking here > Grit Scale

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Your Reinvention – A Guide to Reinvent Yourself Throwback

your reinvention- how to reinvent yourselfThere comes a time in a man’s life where he needs to reinvent himself.  Normally there are major life events where reinventions occur, but it is not necessary.  You can reinvent yourself whenever you feel appropriate but it it is not going to happen overnight.  You need direction to make the reinvention successful.  No one says that it is easy but the finial outcome is worth the pain and suffering it takes to get you there.  You do not want to work so hard to get to your finial self just to slip back into your old habits and your old ways.

I am taking you through the process and giving you the best tips and tricks to make your reinvention successful.  These are not easy and require a lot of work and dedication on your part.  With a few skills and a few ideas, you can change yourself into the person you want to be.  I have personally gone through a reinvention a few times and with the use of my experiences and the use of online resources, I am going to help you have a successful reinvention.


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How do we successfully reinvent yourself?

    • How to increase your possibility of the reinvention sticking
    • Where to start the process from
    • How to determine your final outcome
    • Who you should turn to during this process
    • What are the best things to get rid of and pick up

Resources used in the show:

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New Year New Me

new year new meIt is a new year and with that is the flood of new year resolutions!  The problem is that people do not have adequate plans to make their changes work.  With all of the complaining and griping over how 2017 went, I am going to work to help you make this the best year of your life.  With work and effort, this can and will be the year that you brag about.


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How do you successfully change your life to better fit your own wants for a new you?

Tune in to hear how to successfully:

  • Refuse to be negative about your situation
  • Write down your goals
  • Silence the people that hold you back
  • Plan your year out carefully
  • Get ready for disasters and road blocks

There were no external resources used in the making of the show today.


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Breaking Away from the Pack – Throwback Episode

breaking away from the packIf you ever needed a kick in the ass, today is your show.  In our everyday life we have packs of people that we are forced to interact with.  There is a chance that some of these people are not like us.  There is a chance that some of these people are losers and should be let go.  We need to, as gentlemen, be able to spot this pack and break away from it to be better husbands, fathers, grandfathers, leaders, business owners, and employees.  There are goals to be met and money to be made, what are you doing in your everyday walk to make these dreams come true and to make these goals reality.  

Most of the pack that we interact with are not willing to make themselves better and not willing to do more than what they have to do to get the job done, we are not these people.  Remember my challenge to write down your goals and at the bottom destroy your pen by making sure you are clear that its not over until I win.  I mentioned in the show that I am willing to be apart of your pack and was absolutely serious about this.  If you have a goal or a dream and have no one to talk to about it, email me at skilledgentlemen@gmail.com and let me be apart of your pack.  I am appreciative of everyone that contacts me and promise that I am a very approachable person.


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How do you break away from the pack?

  • Defining the pack
  • Knowing where you fit in the pack
  • Why the pack is full of losers
  • How we sometimes slip into the pack
  • How Scrubs fit into this ideology
  • Being a leader at work
  • Being a leader over your flock
  • Creating a new flock
  • Stepping to live the life you want

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