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Breaking Away from the Pack – Throwback Episode

breaking away from the packIf you ever needed a kick in the ass, today is your show.  In our everyday life we have packs of people that we are forced to interact with.  There is a chance that some of these people are not like us.  There is a chance that some of these people are losers and should be let go.  We need to, as gentlemen, be able to spot this pack and break away from it to be better husbands, fathers, grandfathers, leaders, business owners, and employees.  There are goals to be met and money to be made, what are you doing in your everyday walk to make these dreams come true and to make these goals reality.  

Most of the pack that we interact with are not willing to make themselves better and not willing to do more than what they have to do to get the job done, we are not these people.  Remember my challenge to write down your goals and at the bottom destroy your pen by making sure you are clear that its not over until I win.  I mentioned in the show that I am willing to be apart of your pack and was absolutely serious about this.  If you have a goal or a dream and have no one to talk to about it, email me at skilledgentlemen@gmail.com and let me be apart of your pack.  I am appreciative of everyone that contacts me and promise that I am a very approachable person.


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How do you break away from the pack?

  • Defining the pack
  • Knowing where you fit in the pack
  • Why the pack is full of losers
  • How we sometimes slip into the pack
  • How Scrubs fit into this ideology
  • Being a leader at work
  • Being a leader over your flock
  • Creating a new flock
  • Stepping to live the life you want

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Did you miss anything or want to check out the notes for the podcast episode today, look no further than the forum.  Iskilled gentlemen podcast forum post every episode that I do there for you to go back and find links and remember what was said.  While you are there, make sure you sign up to be a member.  Send me your username after signing up so that I can approve you.  That is all it takes to be a member.

Wealth vs Value: What do you have

wealth valueThe definition of wealth is an abundance of valuable possessions or money.  You can add wealth to your life by either increasing pay or increasing assets and decreasing liabilities.  We all need some kind of wealth because we have bills to pay and food to buy.  Value is The the regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of something.  Also a person’s principles or standards of behavior; one’s judgment of what is important in life.  We all regard value differently but in general it means to same to us all.  

We are going to explore the difference between the two and how it relates to the family.  There has to be some kind of balance between the two different concepts in some way shape or form.  That is the discussion for todays podcast.


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What is the difference between wealth and value?

  • Wealth versus value as it relates to the family
  • What my humble opinion is between the two subjects
  • How to add value to your family
  • What this means as it relates to your legacy
  • The big decision you have to make in life

There were not any outside resources used in the making of the podcast episode.

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What I Wish I Knew In High School – Wednesday Throwback

what i wish i knew in high schoolHigh School, for many people, was one of the hardest things to get through.  For me personally, it was just a major annoyance. I just wanted out with the least amount of damage possible.  People are mean and hateful and try to put you down just so they can feel better about themselves.  Everyone believes that this is the best time in their life.  The problems that they encounter now will be worse than the ones that are to come.  Most of this is nonsense, however we do not speak about this to our children and our young community.  Usually they are the ones that get pushed around and ignored, left to come up with their own views on how reality actually works in the real world.

Hopefully today I will have challenged you to take matters into your own hands and speak with your children about what you wish you knew in high school.  Along with that, take some time to think about what you wish you knew in high school and comment on the Facebook page what you think.

Remember that September is Suicide Awareness Month and we all should see the warning signs of this.  We may not like to think about this but it is not like a gentleman to shy away from things that we dont like to think about.  Learn the signs to help prevent a possible issue in your or your families lives.


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What do I wish I knew in High School:

  • my top 17 things that I wish I knew in high school
  • why this topic really matters to a gentleman
  • why we should talk to our children about high school stress

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Did you miss anything or want to check out the notes for the podcast episode today, look no further than the forum.  Iskilled gentlemen podcast forum post every episode that I do there for you to go back and find links and remember what was said.  While you are there, make sure you sign up to be a member.  Send me your username after signing up so that I can approve you.  That is all it takes to be a member.

How To Find the Right Dog

finding right dogSo you want to get a dog.  They are wonderful animals and really deserve your best care.  Before you run out to the pet store to find one that you like, you should ask yourself some questions.  You should make sure that you know exactly what you are getting into.  You do not want to regret the decision that you made by adopting this certain breed of dog.  These mistakes that people make are avoidable if you know a few thing in the beginning.

This podcast episode explores the kinds of dogs that you should or shouldn’t choose from.  You are going to get a lot of information that should help you make your decision.  Make sure you know what you are doing before you make a huge mistake.


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How do you find the right dog for you and your family?

  • What questions should you ask yourself before getting a dog
  • What are the top 10 dog breeds that people pick out
  • How to find a responsible breeder
  • How these two different parts of the decision process should mesh together

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Emergencies that Gentlemen should handle – Throwback Episode

emergencies men should know how to handleOne of the scariest things that a man can endure is witnessing emergencies that involve his family.  The blood pressure rises along with the pulse rate and the brain goes into overdrive.  To the normal person the next step would be to freak out and panic.  To the Gentleman however, the next step would be to calm down and start fixing the situation.  This series that I am starting is going to be an accumulation of the most common emergencies that men face on a day to day basis from the standpoint of an experienced first responder.

 My goal for these shows is to help men pull themselves together and start being the fixer that his family wants him to be.  Do you want to be that guy that runs around panicking because something just happened to him and his family or do you want to be able to help the situation?


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What Emergencies should men be able to handle?

  • what is a first responder
  • why should I keep a medical bag in my car
  • what should be kept in the medical bag
  • What to do if you are in a car wreck
  • How to deal with Hypothermia and Hyperthermia
  • How to deal with Major Bleeding
  • Why you do not have to worry about this

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Did you miss anything or want to check out the notes for the podcast episode today, look no further than the forum.  Iskilled gentlemen podcast forum post every episode that I do there for you to go back and find links and remember what was said.  While you are there, make sure you sign up to be a member.  Send me your username after signing up so that I can approve you.  That is all it takes to be a member.

Have we lost Rites of Passage? – Throwback Episode

have we lost the rite of passageAcross the world there are cultures have different ways that they ceremonially bring their children into adulthood.  This is called the rite of passage.  However, we live in a world that protects our children and adults from feeling pain and hurt feelings.  Are there ways that we still have rite of passage ceremony?  Are there ways that we can make our children appreciate their place in nature and in society?  My argument is that the struggle has to be hard to make the reward to be sweet.  

I dive into the history and the cultural aspects of the rite of passage that still exist today.  I also get real personal with my plans to have my own ceremony for both myself and my son.  The journey should be a struggle because you deserve to feel proud of your accomplishments.  Join in the conversation by getting involved in the social media and on the forum!  You should plan your own passage and have your own journey.


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What can we do to have a Rite of Passage?

  • There is a purpose for this, what are the purpose of these rites of passage?
  • What are some of the most common ones around?
  • Is it ever too late to go through one yourself?
  • How am I going to go through my own passage?
  • What my plan is for my son?
  • How am I going to train him for it.
  • How do you develop a tradition for yourself?

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A Gentleman’s First Date Dos and Don’ts

a gentlemans first date dos and don'tsA Gentleman only has one chance to impress someone on their first date.  It is what happens and the overall feeling after that date, that decides if there is a second one.  There are some guidelines that you should follow and some land mines that you should avoid.  This podcast episode is perfect for the person that is going on that first date.  You want to be the best you that you can be.  With these tips, you are very likely going to get that second date!  This podcast is also perfect for the married guys out there.  We have to continue to date our spouses.

I am going through the secrets to the first date and what to do and not do.  These ideas are both from myself and from other blogs that I have found.  The major takeaway is that you should be upfront with your intentions.  Do not be that guy that gets in it for “love” and leaves the day after.


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How does a Gentleman handle a First Date?

  • What needs to happen to pull off a first date
  • Common mistakes men make to not get a call back after that night
  • How to fix these mistakes
  • What are some clues that your date is having a good time
  • Different ideas for dates other than dinner and a movie
  • Holding a conversation with someone that doesn’t start with “what do you do”
  • How to prepare for the second and subsequent dates

Resources used to make this episode:

As mentioned in the show, you should check out these related podcasts that I have done.

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Did you miss anything or want to check out the notes for the podcast episode today, look no further than the forum.  Iskilled gentlemen podcast forum post every episode that I do there for you to go back and find links and remember what was said.  While you are there, make sure you sign up to be a member.  Send me your username after signing up so that I can approve you.  That is all it takes to be a member.

Dealing with Annoying Neighbors

dealing with annoying neighborsWe all have neighbors in some way or another.  What happens when these people are relentless with the noise or do not respect boundaries?  There are horror stories about bad neighbors everywhere online and it seems like everyone has a story to share.  Eventually you have to stop the situation and make life bearable.  Instead of dealing with annoying neighbors like a child, why not deal with them like a Gentleman?  There are so many ways that you can mess up your confrontation and I am going to help you from doing so.

I dive into the subject today of dealing with annoying neighbors.  I have lived near these insufferable people before.  It is not a walk in the park by no means.  You have to think “long term solutions” instead of short term retaliation.  There is also the question of when do you involve the home owners association or the authorities.  You don’t want to over react to these perceived besmirchment and with the advice that I give you today, you wont.


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How can we deal with annoying neighbors?

  • Assessing your issues with this other person
  • How you could be over reacting
  • When and when not to involve the government
  • What to do after confronting the neighbor
  • When you should consider moving
  • How to figure out if they are bad neighbors before you buy the place

References that I used in the making of the show today are:

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6 Principles Every Gentleman Should Possess

6 principles every gentleman should possessPrinciples are tools people use for decision making.  We all have to have our own set of principles that fit our values and our own positions in life.  Your values may change in life depending on what you are going through however, your principles shouldn’t change as often. Principles are held deep within yourself and make up who you are as a person.  Setting yourself up with a strong set of principles will soon turn you from a man into a gentleman.

You have all the power in the world to start today to becoming a gentleman or by being a better one.  I mention in the show, and have made it my tag line, that you should be the gentleman your family wants you to be.  We can be better by developing or by holding closer to our own principles.  I asked Blake Hammerton of The Sharp Gentleman to come onto the show as a co-host.  You can find him through his social media accounts found hyper-linked below.  The Sharp Gentleman is a really great show and deserves your attention if you enjoy the kind of content you get here.

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What 6 principles should a Gentleman possess?

  • Extreme ownership in attitude & communication
  • Never Sloppy – appearance, environment, work ethic, convictions
  • Lifelong Learner – always looking to improve ones knowledge and skills
  • Being reliable – not just showing up, but participating
  • Disciplined – setting your goals and refusing to waver 
  • Decisive – making your mind up and sticking to your decision

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How To Save Your Marriage

save your marriageNot every marriage lasts the lifetime that both people expected it to last for.  There are always great intentions to have a wonderful and fulfilling life together the day that the vows are exchanged.  However, the fairy tell ends months after the commitment is made when expectations are not being met.  This has the possibility to end the marriage and make life hard on everyone.  Divorce does not just effect the people that were married, but anyone else that was involved with the family.  Would it not be easier and better for both parties to know how to save the marriage before it becomes an issue?

I am not the beacon of perfect marriage by any means.  My name has been associated with hard headed and no filter many of times.  It takes a strong woman to deal with me sometimes.  It has been the work that my wife and I have diligently done to establish a relationship that can handle both of us.  Time and effort has to go into making a relationship work.  That is why I am bringing you ways to save your marriage, even if it is not on the rocks!


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What are ways that I can save my marriage?

  • Warning signs of an impending divorce
  • How to save the marriage before it tanks
  • What you did wrong to achieve the failure
  • How to make the marriage fulfilling and wonderful for both of you

Resources used in making the show today:

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