Being A Leader – Throwback

being a leaderRather you know it or not, you are a leader.  You are a leader in your home, workplace, and in your social circle.  There are people that are looking at you and trying to figure out what makes you such a great person.  People are looking at you and trying to analyze how they can be just like you.  The concern that has to be discussed is are you being a great leader or are you being a crappy leader?  Are you making decisions based on convenience or because they are the right thing to do.

Can you say that the people that you influence are going to be great themselves or are they going to be people that you loathe?  This is the topic of the day.  How to be an leader.  There are many schools of thought in which great leaders are picked apart and their decision scrutinized to make a list of attributes.  The best list that can be made is the list that you come up with.  Sit down one day and make your own list of attributes that make the best leaders.


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WHAT CAN BE SAID ABOUT BEING A LEADER?

  • Great leaders of history and their bio
  • What makes great leaders
  • What makes terrible leaders
  • How can we teach or children to be leaders
  • How can we show our children to be leaders

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14 Skills to Teach your Children

14 skills to teach your childrenYour children are sponges for knowledge.  You have to teach them the skills that they will need to survive in the world.  Your children look to many different people for inspirations on how they should act.  Movie characters, people in music videos, YouTube creators, and anyone else that may catch their eye.  They see how the character acts and associates that with how they should act.  You, as a gentleman, should have already been teaching them before this happens.  A gentleman should always be a beacon of how to act in any situation.  You should be teaching your children the skills and concepts they need to be a gentleman themselves, no matter their gender.

Today’s podcast episode is about just that.  We dive into 14 different skills that you should teach your children.  These range from conceptual skills like spotting abusive relationships to hard skills like using a knife.


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What skills should you teach your children?

  • How to fish
  • Handling a gun
  • How to handle a knife
  • Driving skills
    • Outside of drivers ed class
  • How to treat someone of the opposite sex
  • The way money works
  • How to have ownership of their actions
  • When to buy quality and when to buy for a quick fix
  • Real defensive driving skills
  • Taking care of their bodies
  • How to swim
  • To be advocates for themselves
  • How to be self reliant
  • Speaking another language

Resources used in the show today are:

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What is Grit

what is gritIf you ever wondered what grit was, just think about when times got hard for you.  You hit the wall but you had a little voice in the back of your mind.  That little voice that said “keep going, keep pushing”.  Grit is that drive that you feel when you wake up in the morning and your muscles are sore.  Your alarm clock is going off and it is super cold outside.  You want to hit the snooze button but that drive and tenacity that you have makes you get up and push forward for the day.  Your drive is important to your success in life.  You are not going to meet your goals and receive the accolades that you desperately want by not having the grit to keep you going during the hard times.

Today I am going to talk about what is grit and really dive into the percentages of success.  The quote goes that 80% of success is just showing up everyday and 20% is everything else.


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What is Grit?

  • How to find the book Grit from Angela Duckworth for a free listen
  • What is the 80% truly made up of
  • How to develop and achieve more grit in your life
  • What does the 20% mean to someone that is looking for it all
  • How to know when enough is enough

Not all of the content covered in the podcast episode today is my own.  Here are the resources that I pulled from.

I also mentioned the Scale that you should try for yourself.  You can find that by clicking here > Grit Scale

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New Year New Me

new year new meIt is a new year and with that is the flood of new year resolutions!  The problem is that people do not have adequate plans to make their changes work.  With all of the complaining and griping over how 2017 went, I am going to work to help you make this the best year of your life.  With work and effort, this can and will be the year that you brag about.


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How do you successfully change your life to better fit your own wants for a new you?

Tune in to hear how to successfully:

  • Refuse to be negative about your situation
  • Write down your goals
  • Silence the people that hold you back
  • Plan your year out carefully
  • Get ready for disasters and road blocks

There were no external resources used in the making of the show today.


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Are you a soft man or a hard gentleman – Throwback Episode

are you a soft manI have been hearing a lot about men being soft here lately.  I sat down to do some research on this phenomenon and came back with the fact that men are becoming really soft.  There is that section of men in the world that have certain attributes about them and have no idea why no one wants to be around them.  People talk bad about them because they are not manning up and taking charge of their responsibilities.  Today’s show is an effort to bring light to this fact and hopefully encourage you to change this out of your life.  To make that effort to go from a soft man to a hard gentleman.  Not only do our families expect it but they deserve to have a hard gentleman in their lives.


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How soft are you?

  • Where I feel like this bashing came from
  • Why I didn’t like reading those posts
  • How can you define a soft man
  • My steps to becoming a hard gentleman
    • Stop Complaining so much
    • Follow through with your plans
    • Take your responsibilities to heart
    • Don’t be afraid of confrontation and don’t be a butt head
    • Get stuff done
  • How can our children learn from this list
  • You should make your own list

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Dealing with Annoying Neighbors

dealing with annoying neighborsWe all have neighbors in some way or another.  What happens when these people are relentless with the noise or do not respect boundaries?  There are horror stories about bad neighbors everywhere online and it seems like everyone has a story to share.  Eventually you have to stop the situation and make life bearable.  Instead of dealing with annoying neighbors like a child, why not deal with them like a Gentleman?  There are so many ways that you can mess up your confrontation and I am going to help you from doing so.

I dive into the subject today of dealing with annoying neighbors.  I have lived near these insufferable people before.  It is not a walk in the park by no means.  You have to think “long term solutions” instead of short term retaliation.  There is also the question of when do you involve the home owners association or the authorities.  You don’t want to over react to these perceived besmirchment and with the advice that I give you today, you wont.


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How can we deal with annoying neighbors?

  • Assessing your issues with this other person
  • How you could be over reacting
  • When and when not to involve the government
  • What to do after confronting the neighbor
  • When you should consider moving
  • How to figure out if they are bad neighbors before you buy the place

References that I used in the making of the show today are:

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How to be a Smart Gentleman

smart gentlemanBeing smart is something that most want to be.  Not only is it attractive to others but it affords you opportunities that you otherwise wouldn’t get.  By employing the tips that I have pulled from around the internet, you can start working your way to be a smarter individual.  There is no way for me to measure how being smart will impact your future life.  However, I can say that being a smart person is a more fulfilling life with better experiences and opportunities.  Ones that many would not have enjoined if they had not took the time to work on their intelligence level.

I used not just a group of great resources online, but my own experiences in how I have developed myself.  Be the Gentleman that can hold a conversation with someone and it not be about yourself.  You will quickly realize that there is a big world out there with really smart people in it.  Those conversations that you have with someone about their experiences and their life can change your opinions.  I know they have for me.


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How can you do to be a smart gentleman?

  • Managing online time through podcasts and articles
  • Write everything down
  • Surround yourself with smart people
  • Learn random knowledge
  • Travel
  • Foster creativity
  • Detox from an online life
  • Keep your mouth shut and listen

Links I talked about in the show today:

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The Gentleman’s Code- Throwback

The Gentlemans code throwbackEvery gentleman needs a code to live by.  This is a gentleman’s code that is the proverbial line drawn in the sand.  The gentleman cannot be pushed further than this line until something has to change.  There also has to be standards instilled in a gentleman that he does not cross or deviate from.  Some call these principals, some call these values, but all can consider it a code.  Whatever you decide to call it, you have to develop your own.

I submit to you today a list that I am going to call the gentleman’s code.  There are 10 rules that I live by every single day and encourage you to do so.  A gentleman should be aware that it is a skill to take away concepts more than anything and a skilled gentleman creates their own code to live by.  Write your own down in a place where you can review them on a daily basis to make sure that you are following them.


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What is your Gentleman’s Code?

  • What is a gentleman’s code
  • Why should a gentleman have this
  • What my code is comprised of
    1. be your own man
    2. lying is only to be used when it is constructive
    3. when a friend ask for help, you do so
    4. actions are louder than words
    5. be the man you would look up to
    6. being smart is better than being loud
    7. respect others time
    8. listen more than you speak
    9. dress better than the occasion
    10. be your own man

No outside resources were used in the show today

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How Resilient are You?

how resilient are youOne of the hallmarks of a Gentleman is being resilient.  Being able to bounce back from a hard situation is something that not many people are able to do.  I do believe that is a big reason why people are as depressed and sad today.  The good news is that resiliency is not something that you are born with.  Being resilient is a skill that is developed over time.  Developed through hard times and coming out on the other end of it being a better person.

Today I am going to give you the tools to be a more resilient person in your own life.  There are seven ways that you can develop your own resiliency in this podcast.  That does not mean that this is it.  I would encourage you to find your own way to be a more optimistic person in your own way.  It is the greats among people that are resilient enough to take a setback and come out the other end better than what they were before.


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How can we be more resilient in our lives?

  • Why I feel that society has lost a lot of their resiliency 
  • Find a purpose in your life
  • Embrace change
  • Be more optimistic
  • Learn to find humor
  • Manage your emotions
  • Prepare
  • Turn hardship into opportunity

I mentioned in the show that there are a few podcasts that you can go back and listen to.  The links can be found here.

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How to get along with the In-Laws

how to get along with in-lawsYou do not just marry the girl, you marry the whole family.  Regardless of how you feel about them, you have to find a way to get along with the in-laws.  This can be a tricky situation to find yourself in.  Rather or not you are first meeting them or established within the family, you have to at least try.  Try to have a relationship with them for the sake of your marriage.  It is a hallmark of a Gentleman to be able to get along with people if differing ideas.

This topic was requested by a listener of the show.  If you have your own idea for a show topic, please find a way to tell me.  Email, Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, or a comment all are superb ways to get in contact with me.  I will do my best to get you the quality information that you need for your topic.


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How do you get along with your in-laws?

  • Tips to getting the in-laws to like you
    • pay attention to your surroundings
    • get to know them
    • be formal around them
    • be honest
    • Take initiative around them
  • How to deal with them if you are way to different
    • stand up for yourself
    • don’t talk about subjects that you don’t want to talk about
    • keep a healthy distance between you and them
    • know that you can pull the plug on the night
  • My own personal situation
  • And if all else fails, how to deal with them for a few hours at a time
    • keep your head low
    • let your spouse end the night, not you
    • stay off your phone
    • be respectful

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