Tag Archives: Dating

A Gentleman’s First Date Dos and Don’ts

a gentlemans first date dos and don'tsA Gentleman only has one chance to impress someone on their first date.  It is what happens and the overall feeling after that date, that decides if there is a second one.  There are some guidelines that you should follow and some land mines that you should avoid.  This podcast episode is perfect for the person that is going on that first date.  You want to be the best you that you can be.  With these tips, you are very likely going to get that second date!  This podcast is also perfect for the married guys out there.  We have to continue to date our spouses.

I am going through the secrets to the first date and what to do and not do.  These ideas are both from myself and from other blogs that I have found.  The major takeaway is that you should be upfront with your intentions.  Do not be that guy that gets in it for “love” and leaves the day after.


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How does a Gentleman handle a First Date?

  • What needs to happen to pull off a first date
  • Common mistakes men make to not get a call back after that night
  • How to fix these mistakes
  • What are some clues that your date is having a good time
  • Different ideas for dates other than dinner and a movie
  • Holding a conversation with someone that doesn’t start with “what do you do”
  • How to prepare for the second and subsequent dates

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As mentioned in the show, you should check out these related podcasts that I have done.

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Guide to having a Gentleman’s Closet

having a gentlemans closetWe all want to look our best.  Whether you are married or not, you want to look your best in any situation.  Having a closet that helps you accomplish this is key to accomplishing this.  We all have our “go to” that we pull out of the closet all the time.  In a world that is obsessed with how things look, ratty jeans and t-shirts don’t cut it anymore.

I am going to talk to you about how to create a closet that makes you look your best.  Not only is this a large portion of the show but I am going to talk about how to design and build your own closet.  A closet  that is functional just as much as it manly.  If you are fashion illiterate, like I find myself to be, then this is the show that you have been needing.  The best part about the whole show today is that you wont need a second mortgage to build your wardrobe out.


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How do you develop a Gentleman’s closet?

  • Finding what works for you
  • Addressing the different levels of fashion that you would need
  • Finding these items for a reasonable price
  • Designing your closet for functionality
  • How can you do this within budget

I mentioned in the show that there was a podcast episode where I spoke about shining your shoes.  This is that link:

Shining your shoes how and why

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A Gentleman’s Guide to Manscaping

manscapingManscaping is something that divides the manly community.  Do you shave your body like a naked mole rat?  Should you let yourself evolve into a walking/talking wookie from Star Wars?  The answer to that is extremely convoluted.  There really is no definite answer but more of a series of different opinions.  You have to take what you hear today and decide what works best for you.  Your body type, own personal style, and your swagger all are parts to your personality and should be considered while manscaping.

I have dredged through many articles and opinions to bring you this conclusion of ideas on the topic of manscaping.  Located deep within these articles are the opinions of many different women.  If you thought that your beard was going to be the topic of conversation and in vogue forever, you might be surprised!


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What should a Gentleman know about Manscaping?

  • Do women actually prefer hair or do they like smooth men
  • What is on the market to assist you with body hair removal
  • What is the going trend with beards and body hair
  • How do you take care of your beard
  • Pro Tips for body hair removal
  • My conclusion on my research

I mentioned a few products that you should consider while taming your own body hair.

First off is the clippers that I have used since I was 15 years old.  15 years later I am still using these.  Great quality and decent price for something that lasts that long.

Wahl Clippers– $23.99 on Amazon

Second is the back hair shaver that I bought.  I am not sure how well it works because it was missing a part.  This is a good concept though.  Men always have a hard time getting to the back hair.  This is a great tool to start with.

Back Shaver– $20.00 on Amazon

Resources used in the show today:

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How to Increase Your Swagger – Throwback Episode

increase your swaggerAccording to the dictionary “swagger” means that you are aggressive and that you are arrogant.  I completely disagree in this completely, I know you are surprised.  Swagger in the terms that I use them in this podcast is the description of what you are about.  Your essence or your air about you.  This can be altered and changed to make yourself better or more attractive.  However, this goes well beyond the fact that you are trying to find someone to date.  

This goes into the world of business.  Do you think that having a low amount of confidence could cost you a promotion or even a job?  Of course!  When polled over a large group of women, what do they look for in a man, it came down to a list of qualities that have been transposed and explained on today’s podcast.  You all have these qualities inside of you, we are just going to work on pushing out the good parts of you.  Taking the good parts and accentuating them to be a better version of you.  Keep that drive alive inside you to own your swagger.


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How do you increase your swagger?

The references that were used in the show today:

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How To Save Your Marriage

save your marriageNot every marriage lasts the lifetime that both people expected it to last for.  There are always great intentions to have a wonderful and fulfilling life together the day that the vows are exchanged.  However, the fairy tell ends months after the commitment is made when expectations are not being met.  This has the possibility to end the marriage and make life hard on everyone.  Divorce does not just effect the people that were married, but anyone else that was involved with the family.  Would it not be easier and better for both parties to know how to save the marriage before it becomes an issue?

I am not the beacon of perfect marriage by any means.  My name has been associated with hard headed and no filter many of times.  It takes a strong woman to deal with me sometimes.  It has been the work that my wife and I have diligently done to establish a relationship that can handle both of us.  Time and effort has to go into making a relationship work.  That is why I am bringing you ways to save your marriage, even if it is not on the rocks!


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What are ways that I can save my marriage?

  • Warning signs of an impending divorce
  • How to save the marriage before it tanks
  • What you did wrong to achieve the failure
  • How to make the marriage fulfilling and wonderful for both of you

Resources used in making the show today:

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How To Be More Attractive

be more attractiveBeing attractive means different things to different people.  What is attractive to one person is not so much to another.  This does not give you the excuse to be a slob though.  As Gentlemen we should be cognizant of our style and our image.  We live in a world that is focused on image.  We know this because of advertisements, contests, and the importance of first impressions.  Why not take some time and work on developing your own style and image.

This podcast dives deep into upgrading your style and your image.  There are many different ways that you can change yourself to be more attractive.  I have just found a few to scratch the surface.  If you really want to increase your attractiveness you will need to do a lot work on your behalf.  Listen to other resources and read as much as you can on the topic.  Learn more about you instead of what the celebrities are doing.  On the show today we don’t just hit superficial beauty.  We dive deeper into how to be more attractive on the inside and learn what women really like in men.



How To Be More Attractive

    • Upgrading your style and image
    • How can you be more attractive in the way that you dress
    • What can you do to increase your attractiveness
    • How to gauge your success

Other podcast episodes you might be interested in listening to:upgrade stylea gentleman's guide to colognefinding the right barbera guide to mens fashionEveryday Chivalry15 chivalrous things that you may not be doing

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How to get along with the In-Laws

how to get along with in-lawsYou do not just marry the girl, you marry the whole family.  Regardless of how you feel about them, you have to find a way to get along with the in-laws.  This can be a tricky situation to find yourself in.  Rather or not you are first meeting them or established within the family, you have to at least try.  Try to have a relationship with them for the sake of your marriage.  It is a hallmark of a Gentleman to be able to get along with people if differing ideas.

This topic was requested by a listener of the show.  If you have your own idea for a show topic, please find a way to tell me.  Email, Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, or a comment all are superb ways to get in contact with me.  I will do my best to get you the quality information that you need for your topic.


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How do you get along with your in-laws?

  • Tips to getting the in-laws to like you
    • pay attention to your surroundings
    • get to know them
    • be formal around them
    • be honest
    • Take initiative around them
  • How to deal with them if you are way to different
    • stand up for yourself
    • don’t talk about subjects that you don’t want to talk about
    • keep a healthy distance between you and them
    • know that you can pull the plug on the night
  • My own personal situation
  • And if all else fails, how to deal with them for a few hours at a time
    • keep your head low
    • let your spouse end the night, not you
    • stay off your phone
    • be respectful

Resources used in the show:

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How to keep your marriage off the rocks

marriageStatistics say that 40% to 50% of all marriages will end in divorce.  That rate is very alarming to someone that is trying to have a happy marriage.  It kind of feels like the odds are stacked against me in a way.  The fact is it is hard to be married.  You are forcing two people to come together and get along and make sacrifices for each other.  However, if you can find someone that genuinely makes you feel good and someone you can get along with, your marriage will be fulfilling and happy.  As a gentleman, we needs to sit down and talk about being someone that can help their marriage instead of possibly sabotaging it.

If you take the time to understand how to make your relationship stronger for the both of you, your relationship will get better.  I am going to do my best today to make sure that you have all of the advice that I can muster to help you accomplish this.


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How do you keep your marriage off the rocks?

    • Breaking down relationships into three different categories
    • Finding the right person for you
    • How to know you can handle them before you marry
    • 8 ways to keep a marriage alive
    • My secret to knowing if she likes the date
    • Quick talk about divorce
    • The big secret to keeping the relationship alive

Resources that were used in the making of the show:

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How and Why Gentlemen Should Cook

how and why gentlemen should cookRegardless or not if you are married, dating, or single being able to cook is an attribute that everyone will appreciate.  You will be able to attract the heart of the person you like after they get over your physical appearance.  You can work toward your health goals by being able to cook.  If you want bigger muscles or less of a gut, you can find recipes that fit.  If you are married with kids and have little time to spare cooking, I am going to give you ways to address this problem.

Being a chef is not a hard skill to learn.  As long as you follow my tips and purchase the correct tools for this, you will be fine.  I have never tried to cook anything and regretted it.  This is a skill that will follow you for your entire life and can be used to impress at the house, at work, at parties, and anywhere else that food is made.  Sit back, get hungry, and learn ways to master that kitchen like a gentleman!


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Why should men know how to cook?

  • General tips that all gentlemen should know
  • The tools of the trade
  • Principals for cooking
  • 3+1 recipes that you should know by hand
  • Why this matters to every gentleman regardless of your marital status
  • How this is an upgrade to your life
  • Money saving tips

Resources used in the making of the COOKING show:

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Modern Day Cooking for Gentlemen

Modern Day Cooking for GentlemenCooking is one of the basics needs for people.  It is not hard to cook something, however it takes a Gentleman to take food and turn it into a masterpiece.  There have been trends that have been moving around for years and now it has cycled again to what is considered by Skilled Gentlemen Podcast as Modern Day Cooking.  What is this modern day cooking and how can it be applied to your life without costing a lot of money and not taking up hours of your life.  Weather you are single or married, by listening to this episode, you are going to blow this skill out of the park by making food that is healthy and has amazing taste without spending hours inside the kitchen or massive amounts of money at the store.


Keep in mind that four year old Katarina needs our help to purchase a diabetic alert dog.  Her story and how you can help can be found in the podcast where I interviewed her and her parents.  Man Up and donate to her go fund me page.

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How can Modern Day Cooking make a difference in my life?

  • The cycles of cooking
  • What is it
  • Why it matters to keep up with this trend
  • How to blow people out of the water with your food
  • 6 simple recipes to master
  • Wine basics
  • How to make your own spices
  • What food labels mean
  • How to save money with this
  • How to save time

References used in Modern Day Cooking for Gentlemen:

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